Three Ways To Keep Your Cool During Divorce

Going through a divorce is a stressful and emotionally draining experience. While some cases are resolved with little fanfare, where the parties agree on nearly every issue, most people are not so lucky. It is more common to run into an obstinate ex, where even the small issues are blown up to enormous proportion. For some, making getting a divorce hard is their goal and is way for a spouse to continue to exercise control over the situation and “push your buttons”. When this happens, it is hard to remain level headed, but keeping your cool is a must if you want to reach satisfactory results.

We know it is hard to stay calm, especially if the issues being litigated are close to your heart. Topics that generally take center stage are kids and money. These two things can bring out the worst in people, and can be hard to resolve when a couple gets divorced. The temptation to use children as leverage, or turn a soon to be ex into a pauper is too great for some people, and if this is happening to you the best thing you can do is to ignore your spouse’s efforts. This is understandably easier said than done, but here are three ways to keep your cool during divorce:

• Take a deep breath, and remember that added stress only hurts you. When you are on edge you are less likely to make rational decisions, which may the exact outcome your spouse seeks. It is perfectly fine to take a moment to pause and gather yourself before responding to your spouse, or making a counter demand.
• Take steps to set up healthy boundaries for yourself, perhaps by requesting communication about visitation go only through your attorneys, or in writing. If verbal communication causes you to lose your cool, remove that possibility from the picture. Not only will you have written record of what has been said, but you will be able to avoid a heated confrontation.
• Speak with a trained counselor or therapist if necessary. Many times a skilled professional can give you tips on how to control your emotions and this will certainly come in handy if your spouse is making every issue in your divorce case a battle.

The key is to do what works for you, and for your kids. Keep in mind that your children are watching, and how you handle yourself during your divorce sets an example of acceptable behavior. Call our office today to learn more, and to get the help you need with your case.

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