As a parent, you will feel your child’s pain if the non-custodial parent has no wish to visit their children and exercise their parental rights. Damage is being done to the child, who may end up feeling unloved due to the lack of self-esteem that comes from neglect from a parent. As a parent you want to protect your children from all of life’s disappointments, and while you can’t fully take away the pain of a parent not wanting to be in their life, here are some things you can do to keep the impact of an absent parent to a minimum.
Do not allow your child to see your own disappointment and concern. You don’t want them to feed off of your negative emotions. If you are angry with your ex, keep it to yourself and do not share these feelings with your child.
Explain to your child that the absent of their parent is not a reflection of the child’s worth. Let the child know that the parent is having a difficult time in their life that is getting in the way of him or her understanding the pain they are causing their child by being absent.
Discuss the situation with the other parent. They may not realize the negative impact that their behavior is having on the child. Assure the other parent that your motive is to co-parent in a way that is in the best interest of the child. If your communication attempts with the other parent fail, let it be. They may not care to see the child, and with lack of care comes a lack of concern, and you don’t want that kind of behavior in your child’s future.
If the other parent is a non-custodial parent who makes plans with their child and doesn’t follow through, have a back up plan. If they are inconsistent with their visits, the best way to prevent your child from being disappointed is to distract them with other activities that they will enjoy.
All parents that are co-parenting should work hard to make a consistent schedule of visitation and communication with their child. Putting your child’s needs before your own is very important. For more information regarding child custody and divorce, contact a Glendale divorce attorney at The Sampair Group today.