It’s often true when people say that they didn’t know what they had until it was gone. Hindsight is 20/20, and that couldn’t be truer after divorce. Unfortunately, you aren’t able to pinpoint the problems in your marriage until after it is too late and one of you has already filed for divorce and started the divorce process.
Studies have shown that these are some of the most common regrets of their marriage that people realized after they got divorce:
Not showing enough love and care.
It’s the little things that go a long way, and many people will realize after a divorce that they should have maybe put a little more effort into the little things, such as showing love, support, and helping to keep things interesting in the relationship even just by holding hands or complimenting your spouse.
Making money matter the most.
Money is a big source of conflict that can lead to divorce. Before letting it become a problem, talk money more often, and not just when it’s important such as tax time or when bills are due.
Not letting go of the past.
In order to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, you need to let go of the past. This includes getting over your jealousy of their past relationships or something from your own childhood that is causing issues in your marriage such as difficulty trusting others, your spouse included.
Playing the blame game.
Try your best to resist the urge to blame your spouse for every problem in the relationship. If there is a problem, ask your spouse for their perspective and discuss the problem in an effective way together.
Lack of and problems with communication are very common reasons for marriages going into a downward spiral. Practice active listening in your marriage and listen to what your spouse is trying to say to you while effectively communicating back with them that you are listening.
Sometimes practicing these things will prevent you from having to reach the point of finding yourself in divorce court, but there are some problems that just cannot be fixed and action needs to be taken for the best interest of everyone involved in a marriage. For the best legal representation in family law and divorce, The Sampair Group can help.