It takes time to recover from a divorce. Even though the legal papers may be signed and finalized, it may take longer for you to feel as though you’ve really worked through all of the emotions involved in the divorce. Here are some ways to help you move forward.
- Write a letter to your ex. Detail every single thing he or she did wrong. Spill out all the blame and pent up emotions. Rant, rave, and say everything you’ve held inside all these months. Then delete it. DO NOT SEND IT. Pouring out all of these feelings and giving them words will help you process how you feel and move past it. There is nothing to be gained by giving the letter to your ex and in fact doing so would probably make things worse.
- Forgive yourself. Deep inside you might be blaming yourself for the end of your marriage, or for actions you took during the divorce. It’s over and it’s time to grant yourself immunity. You did the best you could at the time and you’re moving on.
- Make a list of the ways in which your ex was wrong for you. Seeing this list will help you process that the divorce was necessary. It will also help you think about what you really need in a relationship and a partner.
- Change your environment. Change up your living space so that it is at least slightly different from the way it was when you were married or while you were going through the divorce. Use this as a signal for a new era in your life.
- Smile. Make yourself smile. Studies show that the actual act of smiling makes you feel happier.
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