The holidays are usually a time when families get together for bonding and happiness in sharing the joy of the season. For those going through a divorce, the holidays may serve as a heartbreaking reminder of what is happening around them and how their world is so drastically changing. The time of the year that is supposed to be the happiest may feel the loneliest for you right now. But there are ways you can relieve the sadness, anxiety and feeling of being overwhelmed when going through the holidays during or after a divorce.
Keeping your focus on the kids can help keep your mind off of the big changes in your lives. During a divorce, your focus should always be doing what it best for your children, and since their world is changing too, you want to make sure they are not negatively affected by it during what should be the happiest time of the year for children.
If your divorce involves joint custody, plan out the details with your former spouse ahead of time in order to keep an organized schedule that is in the best interests of the children. Decide in advance which parent will get which days and times with the children, allowing room for them to attend holiday parties for both sides of the family and have the chance to celebrate the holiday with both parents as equally as possible.
Keep with family traditions as much as you possibly can, such as places you visit on Christmas Day or dinner dishes you make during the holidays. Doing so will ease the awkward feeling your children may get from such changes in their lives this season.
Simplify your holidays to prevent becoming too overwhelmed. No matter the time of year, a divorce will usually make you look at ways that you can simplify your life and the things you do, especially since your lifestyle has drastically changed, from where you live to your income. Take a look at the things you have always become so busy with during the holidays and work hard to prioritize and simplify them.
Make a budget and do not overspend. Remember, your lifestyle has now changed drastically. Work on giving gifts of time and attention to your friends, family and children. Focus on others to take your mind off of your own problems for even just a short while. The holidays are about enjoying your time with those you love, so keep busy by sharing with others and showing your thanks for their presence in your life.
The holidays are no doubt a very difficult time for those going through a divorce, and the process can be overwhelming and stressful. At The Sampair Group, our Glendale family law attorneys will make the process about protecting your rights and well-being. Contact us today at Sampair Group for a free consultation.