If you are the parent of an adult who is getting a divorce, you want to be there to help your child through this difficult time. It can be challenging to know what to do or what not to do when thrown into this role.
Take sides. While you may have a good relationship with your son-in-law or daughter-in-law, this is a time when family comes first. Your child needs to know you support him and that you are on his side. Be loyal. This doesn’t mean you won’t be able to be friendly with the in-law in the future, but for now, stay loyal.
Help financially if possible. Your child may need financial assistance to pay for the legal fees and may also need a helping hand when it comes to finding a place to live or being able to afford to live alone after the divorce. If you have the resources, financial help can be invaluable at this time.
Be a rock for your grandchildren. Make yourself available for babysitting, for overnights, for fun excursions, for homework help and just as a loving presence for your grandchildren. This is a difficult time for them and a solid grandparent relationship can help a lot. It will also help your child to know you are there for your grandchildren.
Bite your tongue. While you may have strong opinions about what your child is doing or plans on doing, don’t say too much. Well-placed advice can be useful when it is asked for. But parental advice can sound a lot like criticism at this very challenging time in your child’s life.
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