Three Reasons You Should Agree To Disagree Before Getting Married

Marriage is a lot of hard work, and more often than not people that thought they had finally found their “soulmate” are surprised to find themselves facing divorce. The process of getting divorced requires the parties to come to agreements on property division, child custody and support, and other issues that are unique to the couple. If an agreement cannot be reached, the Court will enter an order that it considers fair and equitable, and both sides will be expected to comply with whatever terms the Court orders. If this sounds scary, take heart, our job is to help you get through the process with as little pain as possible. But, if you are considering marriage and wonder how to make it last, there are plenty of places to look for advice.

Three reasons you should agree to disagree before you tie the knot include:

• No one can please everyone, all of the time. Deciding what goals you share, and identifying where you have different opinions will help you know what to expect from your marriage. If you expect to change your spouse, you will end up disappointed.
• Having an identity as a couple is important, but maintaining your separate identity is also crucial to a healthy marriage. There is no reason to “force” yourself to take up the same hobbies your spouse enjoys, and doing so may only cause resentment to build.
• Remember that your spouse should first and foremost be your friend, and friends are unique. Being able to communicate and talk to your friends helps get you through some of life’s most difficult times, and your spouse may offer a viewpoint you had not considered or taken into consideration when tackling a problem. Even if you do not agree with the approach, having a good friend to bounce things off of usually helps when important moments arise.

Agreeing to disagree will also prepare you for divorce, if that is your plan. Compromise and negotiation are big parts of a divorce case, and are more difficult tasks when you are not used to making concessions. The key is to identify which issues you can bend on, and which ones you will not allow any room to budge. We help get you through this trying time by looking at the facts of your case and arguing for the results you need. We work with you to develop a strategy, and listen to your concerns so you can be sure the things that matter the most are prioritized. Call us today for more information about divorce, and schedule an appointment to get your case started.

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