The idea of divorce does not generally bring up happy thoughts, and we all know divorces can be ugly. The emotional trauma associated with ending your marriage can take its toll, and make it difficult to separate the issues in a rational way. One issue that must be isolated though is that of your children. When minor children are part of the equation, the parties must work peacefully for the benefit of their kids and put their personal feelings aside. This is much more easily said than done, but with a little work it can be done.
Some things to keep in mind when talking to your kids about divorce include:
- Pick your words wisely, and in an age appropriate way.
- Reassure your kids that the divorce is not their fault, and that both parents love them equally.
- Keep it simple! You may be tempted to delve into the specifics of the reasons why the marriage has ended, especially if you are having a hard time emotionally accepting the divorce, but holding your tongue can help you to reach favorable results on issues like visitation and custody. And, in the long run you will feel better about having handled yourself well in front of your children.
Above all, avoid using your kids as a pawn or putting them in a situation where they are made to pick a parent. If necessary, enlist the assistance of a family therapist or counselor to help you get through any rough spots. Our trained staff of exceptional family law attorneys can help you to develop a parenting plan that works, and is in the best interests of your kids. We know how to take your feelings into consideration, while advocating for your children. If you need help dealing with the issues of your divorce in a way that does not impact your kids, call us to schedule an appointment.
For more information about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.