Getting through a divorce is challenging for the entire family. Help your children adjust to the first year (typically the most challenging) by following these rules.
- Don’t say bad things about your ex in front of your kids. This can be hard to do, but it is the most important thing you can do for your children. They need to have a healthy relationship with the other parent. Your job is to support them as they continue that relationship. Do not assume that because the children are not in the room, they cannot hear you if you do say something negative about the ex. Children are very intuitive and hear everything.
- Be consistent. Because there are likely so many changes happening in your child’s life right now, consistency is important in parenting. Kids need to know what to expect and what is expected of them. Make this clear and stick with it.
- Be open and honest, but not too honest. Encourage your kids to talk to you about what they are thinking and feeling. Answer their questions with honesty, but use age-appropriate honesty that is not too revealing. Your kids will ask about reasons for the divorce. General, non-accusatory answers work best, but they need to be honest at their root.
- Try to co-parent. Children benefit when parents work together. It’s not always possible and it won’t always be perfect, but the effort matters.
- Be true to yourself. It can be easy to lose sight of your own needs, but it is important to establish and work on your own happiness. Doing so makes you a good role model for your kids.
- Be observant. Keep your eyes and ears open as your kids adjust. There will be bumps in the road, but if you are at the ready with love, compassion, and support, your children will survive and thrive.
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